The Virgin Mary has a history of being personally involved with people throughout the ages. Saints are exceptionally high on this list. At least over the past few hundred years, it is said, every saint had and has a deep and strong devotion to Our Lady.
The definition of Devotion is having love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person, activity, or cause. It is that love, loyalty, and enthusiasm, or Devotion, that binds us to Our Lady along with the recitation of the Rosary. I am in the group bound to Our Lady, the Virgin Mary.
If someone told me ten years ago that I would create a website in honor of the Blessed Virgin Mary, that person would have been wasting my time with such trivial and unimportant things. I did not even know who the Blessed Virgin was other than the mother of Jesus and to be frank about it, I did not care. And yet, she has become integral to my life and my anchor.
I am sure I will get criticized for Our Lady being central to me, but that is how it is. I can not change that. I have been through a lot with her over the last nine years, and she has been very generous to me and has lead and guided me to this point.
In this article and the following, I will include my experiences in the consecration subjects I have chosen to write about. I can not say that you will have the same experiences I have had if you follow what I did, but I know for sure it will help.
I added True Devotion to Mary by St. Louis de Montfort to this site in a form I could understand because everything I saw was confusing to me, just as it was when I consecrated myself to her the first and second times. I discovered in the process that I experienced things referred to by de Montfort in his consecration works, True Devotion to Mary.
If you want to read my experiences involving her from the beginning, you can do it here. You will find that Jesus had an integral part in my association with Mary initially, and I am very grateful to Him for this. It is the greatest blessing granted to me in this life.
I once read a quote from the Virgin Mary that went like this. “You can never pay me back for what I do for you.”
What is Marian Consecration?
Marian consecration is a willful, deliberate decision on your part to set yourself aside and dedicate yourself for the Virgin Mary; you are giving yourself to Jesus through Mary. This is, in my opinion, a life-long commitment. It is a lifestyle change and requires devotion to Our Lady but devotion is required to get to the point of consecration anyway, is it not?
Consecration to Mary is not some off-the-cuff idea. My experience is that I had to put a lot of thought into this decision. I struggled for a while really questioning whether I really wanted to or needed to do this. The unknown played a part in delaying the decision. What if I did not like it? Could I reverse it?
Fortunately for me, my motives were very strong.
Why did I want to consecrate myself to Mary in the first place? There are a number of reasons and they revolved around Our Lady herself.
- I wanted to be as close to her as I could get.
- I wanted to be under her maternal care.
- I wanted her directly involved in my life.
- I wanted to belong to her.
The reason for pursuing consecration and our lady is because she had just walked with me and carried me through the end of alcohol addiction (something I tried to achieve many times without her help and failed). She helped me through something that I could not do myself; quit drinking. She helped me through a widow maker heart attack and open heart surgery to full recovery. She had been quite active in my life and I wanted more.
What did I need to accomplish these motives?
Courage to Persevere
Even after all of the above, I had moments where I wanted to just quit. Still not completely trusting her, I had a fear of the unknown and what lied ahead for me. So to combat this, I would go over my life from the last 7 years and recount the path she had led me down. This helped some, but there were some days I just had to bone up and trudge through.
This whole consecration process consisted, for me, of building a complete trust in her. A real and intimate relationship and friendship was forming and had to consist of trust. If I could not be trusted there would be no intimacy and if I could not trust her, there would be no relationship either. Building trust was the basis for everything. We could not advance without it. Although I could not see or measure it, it was building.
You will have to be devoted to her also. Remember our definition of devotion? Having love, loyalty, or enthusiasm for a person, activity, or cause.
It is necessary for me to be devoted to Our Lady. I have devotion to her. I am not perfect but perfect devotion is not required. I pray rosaries at the beginning of every day. I get up early in the morning and start my day with something she asks of us. The days I miss, it seems as though there is something missing and this is true today.
I read or listen to something, usually private revelation, concerning Our Lady everyday. I have so much reading material on her. This is not out of duty. It is out of desire as a lot of this is. I want to learn and know all I can about her.
I will fast or attempt to fast once a week, usually on Wednesday. By the time Friday rolls around I am weak or just plain lazy and give in. I try to follow the Five Stones of Medjugorje that I ran across while visiting there in 2019. The five stones consists of:
- Prayer (Rosary)
- Scripture reading
- Mass attendance weekly
This is it. This is the reason of all reasons for my consecration. Love of the Virgin Mary. Although some who read this will cry “idol worship,” it is not. It is love for her. She creates nothing and she forgives no sins. She is not worthy of worship. She is not a deity, as Jesus is. But she is not just an ordinary person either. She loves us beyond imagination. To please her is to please Jesus.
Don’t mix this up with spousal or earthly love. I am not talking about the same thing here.
Maximilian Kolbe, the saint from Auschwitz, had this to say about it.
“When you start to read something on the Immaculate, do not forget that at that moment you are coming into contact with a living being, who loves you, who is pure, without any stain. Also, remember that the words you see are unable to express who she is, because they are human words, drawn from earthly concepts, words that present all things in a human manner, while the Immaculate is a being totally of God.”
I believe that consecration is a product of something that is not ordinary or commonly found. I believe people who consecrate themselves are a little different.
What my Consecration led to
If you are contemplating consecration you have, in my opinion, made it one of the high decisions in this life. Just to be in this position is remarkable. Think about that.
If you are like me, your life will change drastically just being associated with the Virgin Mary. Mine has. I now am doing things I never dreamed of and not all of them are spiritually related.
My life, looking back on it was a mess. A complete mess. And I was headed to the grave. I almost made it, too. I am more productive and efficient than ever. I am clean and addiction free. But most of all, my life is fun and I am extremely grateful for that. Sure there are things that I don’t like that are required of me. And I lose my temper, say things I should not say, etc. But I know I am on the right path, now. Mary’s path. I am planning on staying on it the rest of my days regardless of the cost.
That is what Marian Consecration is – setting aside yourself for the Blessed Virgin Mary.
The One Thing that I Believe You Must Do.
There is one thing I believe that you must do in your relationship to the Blessed Mother and I believe it is so important.
You must be very attentive to her. You must pay attention to her. If you request something of her, I believe you must be watching and paying attention because if she gets your request filled and you do not notice, then what?
If a person asks their spouse to do something for them, do they just forget the request and act like they never made it? And when the request is filled, they don’t even say thank you?
You may operate in your affairs that way, but the Virgin Mary does not.
One of the things I found so fascinating about her is she never misses and she never forgets. Do you know how you forget important things you were supposed to do for others, regardless of the reason? She does not do that. She delivers 100 percent of the time and is perfectly consistent. That is the kind of person I want in my life.
I believe it is because she loves her children and they are so important to her, she is always there. Treat her the same way.